Maleficent Movie Review

SO MANY SPOILERS AHEAD.  Don't read if you don't want to know literally every major plot point.

I was interested in seeing Maleficent, but I hadn't actually thought to see it in theaters until a friend asked to see a movie and I thought, "Why not?"  I was so ignorant.  Maleficent blew me away with all the usually awesome movie stuff--excellent acting (Angelina Jolie is magnificent) and breath-taking fantasy landscapes and creatures.  But what solidified my love for the film was its beautiful feminist messages.

For starters, it is an undeniably female-driven movie.  Maleficent and Aurora are the center of everything.  The three fairies provide comic relief and a significant amount of screen time.  There are three male characters to round things out--men to round things out!  One as the sidekick to a female!  Oh my gosh, what a wonderful thing to see women as the stars of a fantasy epic, living adventurous stories and making terrible and wonderful decisions.

Second, Maleficent continues what Frozen began:  the assertion that love comes in many forms, and that female love relationships are just as strong as male-female romantic ones.  (It also continues a hesitancy to rely on the rape-like "true love's kiss" while a person is unconscious.  I adored Prince Philip saying, "I don't feel right about this!  I barely know her!" when the fairies urge him to kiss the sleeping Aurora.)  But he does kiss her, and nothing happens.  She's still asleep.  And man, oh man, then Maleficent steps out, apologizes and cries and repents; she kisses the princess whom she loves and cares for, AND SLEEPING BEAUTY AWAKES.  True love's kiss is one woman caring for another.

And most importantly, I was completely surprised by the entire plot.  Maleficent is essentially a rape allegory.  The young carefree fairy befriends a human boy.  She thinks she loves him and she trusts that he loves her back.  Years later, out of greed and ambition, he drugs her so that she falls asleep, physically violates her, taking something of hers without her permission, and when she wakes alone, she howls in physical and emotional agony.  Dear God, that scene was crazy painful.

Seeing the action as rape makes the movie so incredibly powerful.  Her vengeance is understandable.  I rooted for her to make the guy crawl.  Her turn to darkness is a bandage for her pain.  I was behind her 100%, even though I was uncomfortably aware that she was acting the villain.

But it doesn't stop there!  Maleficent learns to love again, albeit by loving the child she cursed.  She saves the princess, risking her life in the process.  And then love saves her, quite literally.  The child she loves frees the wings that had been ripped from her, and in a burst of bright light, they reattach and Maleficent is whole again. 

There is still, however, that pesky king rapist.  He attacks her in exactly the way he knows will hurt her, and clings to her as she tries to fly away.  I'm entirely sure that the fight scene at the end was probably nothing overwhelming or particularly epic.  But seeing it as an abuser and a rapist attacking his victim made me so uncomfortable.  I was cringing at the screen the whole time.  I honestly didn't know what would happen, what I even wanted to happen.  Should she kill him?  YES, I WANT JUSTICE.  But that would turn her into the villain we assumed she was.  In the end, she breathes deeply and says, "It is over," releasing him and turning away.  She chose FORGIVENESS.  Not in like, the way where everything is okay.  But in the real forgiveness way, where she chooses not to let him have a hold on her anymore, where the victim says, "I will not let you make me less than I am."  It is SO AWESOME.  Of course, because justice is still demanded, he throws them both off the castle walls.  He, being a terrible rapist, falls to his death.  She, being a redeemed survivor with returned wings, flies away.  And it is soul-wrenchingly beautiful.

I loved this movie.  I loved it so hard, and I want to make everyone in the world see it.  I want people to empathize with the victims of assault, to despise those who violate others, to learn the painful lessons of forgiveness and loving again.  This movie was my everything!

Coward

As a struggling-to-reform perfectionist, I try pretty hard to be vulnerable and okay with weakness in front of Anju and Ketan, both of whom are well on their way to being full-blown neurotic perfectionists.  This means freely telling them, "I didn't know that," and "I was wrong," and "Whoa, that made me nervous!" I also tell them about all the things I'm scared of, from failing to heights to spiders.

When they both started reading Divergent, we naturally began categorizing each other into factions.  We have had this conversation approximately twenty billion times.

Anju:  You're definitely Amity, Miss Trish.
Me:  Yeah.
Ketan:  And Erudite!
Me:  Yup.
Anju:  But not Dauntless.  You're scared of everything.  Haha, you're such a coward!

So I clench my teeth and nod and admit that, yeah, I'm scared of a lot of things.  I do not, no matter how badly I want to, point out that she is scared of infinitely more things than I am, because I am (barely) above comparing myself to a seven-year-old.  And when Ketan boasts that his nickname would be Three, thereby claiming to be braver than Tobias, I hold my tongue and do not mention how he sometimes cries himself to sleep. 

We went to Six Flags today, and I hate roller coasters, which combine two stupid things: heights and falling.  That lurching feeling in your stomach that makes you think you're going to die?  I am totally fine going throughout my day without intentionally afflicting myself with it.  I want them both to know that it's okay to say no, that no matter how many times they whine at me or tease me, I'm allowed to say no and peer pressure isn't going to change that. 

I mean, I'm like really saintly towards these kids.  They had better look back some day and think, "Wow, Miss Trish actively and lovingly shaped us into confident, self-accepting human beings."  But if they keep needling me about how big of a coward I am, one of these days I'm going to pull a Severus Snape and scream, "DON'T CALL ME COWARD!" before fleeing into the Forbidden Forest.

Supervision

It's so great having a counseling supervisor who knows my flaws and gently makes fun of them.  It's great because it means 1) I don't have to hide my flaws, and 2) Acknowledging them is the first step to healing.  When I find myself in a relationship like this, I'm tempted to create a Facebook status that says something like, "I love when people make fun of my flaws!" but inevitably some rando will "jokingly" insult me, and I am reduced to frowning at my screen because someone didn't understand.  The difference is that I have to feel safe with the person who is insulting me.

Supervisor makes me feel safe because he says things like, "I can counsel a pedophile, but ask me to answer the receptionist's phone, and I'll run screaming in the other direction," and "The majority of your married clients will be here because the husband cheated--ugh, men."  (And before any reader who is overly invested in my love life starts arching their eyebrows, Supervisor is married.  I like to envision our relationship as wise-cracking buddy cop counselors.  Please view all these stories through that lens.)

Next week Supervisor is going to make Other Intern and I do a two-hour art therapy session.  I say "make" even though I suppose I could technically refuse. Today he said,

Supervisor:  Good work today.  And next week you can take another step!
Me:  Ugh.  Another step?
Supervisor:  You get to express emotions!
Me:  ....Gross.
Supervisor:  But it's your favorite thing!

Which is funny, because three weeks ago I was feeling a lot of emotion in supervision, and it was so embarrassing.  I finished up with my clients and burst into Supervisor's office.

Me:  Am I allowed to be mad at a client??
Supervisor:  Um, I think you are mad at a client.
Me:  No!  Well, yes, but I mean to their face.  Can I yell at someone in session?
Supervisor:  Oh.  No.  You shouldn't do that.
Me:  Well...can I have a Bullshit Button?  I know other sites have those.  Can I just obnoxiously press it every time he lies?
Supervisor:  You know, I had one, but I think I threw it away.  I think you'll just have to learn to empathize with him.
Me:  UGH, NO.

Thus began a half hour conversation about why this guy had made me so furious, by the middle of which I had substantially raised my voice, was sitting on the edge of the couch, gesticulating wildly, heaving deep angry breaths.  Suddenly I noticed Other Intern looking (nervously?) at me out of the corner of his eye.  Oh, no.  I had become carried away with emotion!  I clutched at my head and said, "Ugh, I am so angry I can't think properly."  Suddenly I had a mental image of me, a female wearing a dress, clutching her head while two men watched her emotional breakdown.  I sat up straight and mentally freaked the hell out.  I do not want to be that person.

The person who feels emotions.

So art therapy next week will be really interesting.  I tell that story in horror, but I'm also super proud of myself.  There are a lot of things I wish Therapist could have helped me learn, but I am really pleased that together we unlocked my anger.  For the first twenty-four years of my life I thought I was somehow immune to anger.  Turns out I just bottled it all up and let it flow inward, feeding my depression and self-hate.  It was actually a huge accomplishment for me to let myself get so angry in front of two co-workers.

It is such a joy to work somewhere that allows me to be my worst and, in fact, celebrates my honesty in letting it out.  Especially since I'm not so much working as learning a trade, and I can't imagine a safer environment for me to struggle and triumph and fail without worrying about anyone else's opinion.  I could not ask for a better place to work than one where I am greeted with,

Supervisor:  Are you moving?  Because I had a dream last night that you were and you needed my help to move your collection of shopping carts.  You had one from Korea and one from Japan, and we were, like, pushing them down the freeway.
Me:  Well.  I'm not moving, but I do have a collection of shopping carts.

SEE.  Wise-cracking buddy cop counselors.  It's totally a thing.

Torn

I've finished my second of three years at graduate school.  While this is definitely a significant event, it feels less important now that I am nearly certain I'll stay in Dallas after I graduate.  Not forever, because I haven't yet learned how to commit to something beyond "Sure, maybe for a few years!".  But my plan to stay in Dallas for three years looks like it will expand to five, at least.

It's weird, realizing this sprawling city will be home for longer than I initially planned.  This weekend my grandparents visited, and one of my favorite parts of the weekend was introducing them to people from my new church.  It was lovely to have people come up to us who recognized my family from Facebook.  It felt like another step toward "these people are my new faith family."

But. 

But there's always a but.  Even as I settle into a place where I have "my people," I can so easily fall into discontentment.  Because Lindsay and I talk on the phone, or Jenna texts, or Mark says something unabashedly sweet on Facebook, and I think, "Those are my people."  I miss the endless hugs on Sunday mornings.  I miss being involved in everything, and I miss people knowing my talents better than I do, requesting and occasionally forcing me to use them.  I miss going out to lunch after the service because no one wants to say goodbye.  I miss the Bible studies and Tuesday night dinners and any excuse to hang out with my faith family as many nights of the week as possible.  I miss the friendly insults and the utter comfort with which I knew the men, women, boys, and girls who made up Woodland.

I don't know what to do with this.  I don't know how to parse out the difference between the evidence that God is using me in this new city with the fear that I came here because I'm terrified of good things and wanted to start over.  I don't know how to hope for a homecoming when I worry I can't take my new self home without regressing.  I don't know how to celebrate the life I have now without feeling like I'm villainizing the life I used to know.  I don't know how to fast forward through these years of sloughing through relationships, hoping for the level of comfort and vulnerability and trust that I enjoyed before.

I don't know how to be excited and sad at the same time.  Life is really good lately.  I'm doing something I adore in a place where I feel safe and challenged.  Those words--safe and challenged--kind of typify my experience in Dallas.  That's a really good place to be, so I'm going to be here for a while longer.  But I guess when the future starts solidifying, the past starts tugging at me.

Captain America: Winter Soldier

I have a new obsession, and it is Captain America: Winter Soldier.  This is surprising, because his first movie is my least favorite in the Marvel universe, and he was by far the least interesting Avenger in The Avengers.  I went to see his newest movie out of brand loyalty, but I went to see it a second time because I fell in love.  This film covers all of my interests, creating a perfect storm of a story that draws me back again and again (and again?).

Hot People

Let's get the obvious out of the way:  Superheroes are almost always unbearably attractive.  As Amy Poehler said in her wonderful vlog about body positivity, "There are only five perfectly symmetrical people, and they're all movie stars.  And they should be, because their faces are very pleasing to look at."  Captain America is inhumanly muscled, Black Widow is effortlessly gorgeous, Falcon is hot and funny, and then there is the Winter Soldier.  Since when did unwashed hair and metal appendages become so attractive to me?  I just--I cannot talk about him anymore, or I will fall into paroxysms of adulation.

Even better?  The narrative allows these hot people to work together without assuming romance must naturally ensue.  Steve Rogers and Natasha Romanov, aka the pinnacle of human perfection re: male and female, flirt a bit and comment about how of course the other is attractive, but it always remains friendly.  I mean, the running joke between them is Natasha trying to set Steve up, which A) establishes them as buddies, and B) establishes that she does not want to be set up with him herself.  Give me more platonic best friend superheroes!  (Except when it comes to Black Widow and Hawkeye.  Please tell me her arrow necklace has a hidden meaning.)

Symbolism

This is the most difficult of my interests to express with other movie watchers.

Me:  Did you notice that Captain America uses the same move to attack his first and last opponents in the movie!?
Hypothetical Movie Watcher:  No, why does that matter?
Me:  It just--nicely bookends the movie!  And what about those two bullet holes, eh?  "Cut off one head, and two spring up" amiright?
HMW:  I don't think that matters.
Me:  BUT IT'S INTERESTING TO THINK ABOUT.

Minority Representation

This is maybe my favorite thing about CA:WS.  The five main heroes in the film are 1) a white man, 2) a white woman, 3) a black man, 4) another black man, and 5) another white woman.  Five heroes and only ONE is a white man?  BLOW ME DOWN.  I cannot even express how much this means to me.  Contrast this film with The Avengers, in which our six main heroes are...five white guys and one white girl.

It's no secret that Black Widow is my favorite Avenger, and it doesn't take much imagination to figure out why.  In a world of hyper masculine superheroes, Natasha Romanov uses her intelligence, wit, flexibility, and lower body strength to overpower dozens of bad guys.  She is badass and feminine.  When I watch a superhero movie, I fall in love with the superheroes, but here was a superheroine represented who I am.  I could be her.

The second time I watched CA:WS, I sat next to a black woman and her son, and every time Falcon came on screen, they cracked up (I mean, so did I, that man is a gift to humanity) and cheered.  It made me so excited, because here was a face they could map themselves onto.  (Although it needs to be said--where was the black woman superhero?  And on and on.)

Maybe this seems inconsequential.  Instead of defending myself, I will quote Anthony Mackie aka Falcon.

Q: How do you feel about being the first African-American superhero?
AM: It’s funny you should ask that. [LAUGHS] It’s cool. When I was a kid, I really didn’t have a person I could look at, other than my dad, and be like, “Hey, I want to be that guy and fly through the window.” You couldn’t be like 7 years old and say, “Who do you want to be for Halloween?” “Shaft!”
So [LAUGHS] you know, it’s really exciting. When I first got this role I just cried like a baby because I was like, “Wow, next Halloween, I’m gonna open the door and there’s gonna be a little kid dressed as the Falcon.” That’s the thing that always gets me. I feel like everybody deserves that. I feel like there should be a Latino superhero. Scarlett does great representation for all the other girls, but there should be a Wonder Woman movie. I don’t care if they make 20 bucks, if there’s a movie you’re gonna lose money on, make it Wonder Woman. You know what I mean, ’cause little girls deserve that. There’s so many of these little people out here doing awful things for money in the world of being famous. And little girls see that. They should have the opposite spectrum of that to look up to.

(Legitimate) Man Pain

Man pain is defined by Urban Dictionary as follows:  "When a grown man has the emotional life of an angsty teenager he is said to be experiencing manpain, especially if he tries to compensate with macho behavior.  There are many causes of manpain ranging from violently killed family member/mentor/lover(s) to a broken heart to absent parental figures or even a history of sexual and/or physical abuse.  Manpain is generally expressed in the following ways: breaking shit, drinking too much, picking fights in bars, becoming a costumed superhero and taking long drives while listening to wailing guitars. For the less violent it can be expressed by remaining stone-faced while flexing jaw muscles, staring broodingly into the middle distance and crying a single tear."

I don't like man pain.  It's ridiculous.  But Captain America?  Is a man and is in legitimate pain.  He is pretty okay at adjusting to waking up in a new era, but the fact that all his friends and love interests are dead or dying?  Well, that's harder to swallow.  The difference between Steve Rogers and MANPAIN protagonists is that Steve Rogers doesn't let this pain drive him to drama and selfishness.  The story deals with his loneliness and depression very compellingly (I mean, the poor guy can't even think of something that makes him happy), but he does not let his pain wall him off in a cocoon of "you don't understand me!"  Instead, he checks in with other people, asking Black Widow how she is coping with a big reveal and tactfully remembering Falcon's fallen comrade.  They're all in pain, and no one person's pain is allowed to take center stage and dominate everyone else's.


Violence

The other day I was talking about violence with the boy I nanny and how I wouldn't want to shoot someone if they were robbing me.  He gave me a skeptical look and asked, "If you don't like violence, how come you like superhero movies so much?"  Touche, ten-year-old.  This question was on my mind during my second viewing of CA:WS because the fight scenes in this movie are beautiful.  It wasn't until I realized that they could easily be described as balletic that I realized it was the choreography more than anything that amazed me.  Black Widow and Captain America are two of the most graceful superheroes created.  Pairing them against someone like the Winter Soldier, who is raw power and force, creates a fantastic opportunity to show off some really amazing human movement.  This especially became true during the final fight scene when things get much more realistic--I couldn't watch.  I don't like real violence.  But when fight scenes play like dances, I am riveted.

Patriotism

I tend not to be very patriotic.  When I think of the United States, I think of political infighting between Democrats and Republicans.  I think of global bully, and materialism, and entitlement.  So a superhero whose name is Captain America?  He was fighting an uphill battle to my heart from the beginning.  But the joke's on me, because this stalwart protector of patriotism won me over.  Listening to him make a speech about sacrifice for the sake of someone else's freedom made me proud to be an American like no fireworks display ever did.  America is powerful, and when we use that power against others or for ourselves, I get mighty squeamish.  But this new (old?) brand of patriotism that says we ought to use our power sacrificially?  I am ALL ABOUT THAT.

This leads me to my absolute favorite scene in the film, a scene featuring a nobody tech guy who hears Captain America's message and subsequently struggles to do the right thing at risk of his life.  It is beautiful and painful and awe-inspiring.  If that's what it means to be an American, well then, count me in.

Noah Gundersen

Last night I saw Noah Gundersen in concert.  I fell in love with his music the second I heard "Jesus, Jesus," which perfectly expresses my doubts and discomforts with Christianity while also clinging to a hoped for hope.

When I finally got around to listening to the rest of his music, I was blown away by his ability to honestly relate the highs and lows of life with a wisdom that digs beneath the obvious.  In "Isaiah" he describes a relationship with a girl who has a boyfriend.  He manages to convey the ambivalence of wanting the relationship and knowing it's wrong.  The chorus repeats Isaiah 41:10, "Fear thou not, my right hand will hold you, fear thou not."  The first time it is an excuse, a get out of jail free card, and as the song progresses into regret and conviction, it becomes a truth to which he clings in the midst of sin.  I mean, this guy blows me away.

And he's even more fantastic in person.  His passion pours off the stage.  He is absolutely captivating.  And the joy of live music comes from hearing your favorite songs in real time, watching emotions play across an artist's face as they share their soul with a crowd of strangers.  So when he played the opening chords of "Jesus, Jesus" I was thrilled.  It was better than I expected, however, as we were privileged to hear Noah's alterations to the song, something I can only assume reflects his spiritual progression.

The last verse of "Jesus, Jesus" is this:

"Jesus, Jesus, I’m still looking for answers
Though I know that I won’t find them here tonight
But Jesus, Jesus, could you call me if you have the time?
And maybe we could meet for coffee and work it out
And maybe then I’ll understand what it’s all about"

But what he sang was this:

"Jesus, Jesus, I’m still looking for answers
And I think I always will be
But Jesus, Jesus, could you call me if you have the time?
And maybe we could meet for whiskey and work it out
And maybe then I’ll understand,
Maybe then I'll understand,
Maybe then I'll understand
You."


It's probably powerful enough to let the contrasts sit there, but what is a blog for if not unnecessarily sharing opinions?  And I have to, because I love the changes.  First he acknowledges that not only will the doubts go unsolved tonight, but--they're always going to exist.  Then he changes out coffee for whiskey, reflecting a darker sensibility, and awareness that this is heavy stuff, not something for a casual coffee date.  Not only that, but he trusts that Jesus would join him for whiskey, would be comfortable joining him where he is: in a bar, silencing his pain.

And finally, my favorite change.  Whereas first Noah sings about understanding "what it's all about" he finally decides that he wants to understand "you."  There will always be questions and he will always want answers (don't we all?), but in the end, he knows those aren't sufficient.  You can have all the answers in the world to the problems presented in the song, but answers won't solve anything unless you know the Person who is giving the answers. 

Noah is probably not a Christian, from what my concert-mates told me.  But his song speaks volumes of truth to me, reminding me that having arguments are secondary to resting in Jesus.  If I can understand him, the contradictions and worries will fall away.  I'm so honored to have been able to listen to Noah's heartbeat so that mine can fall into his cadence. 

Shame vs. Guilt

This past Sunday I had a stimulating discussion with some people in my small group.  I was arguing for a less-common position, and finally one man said, "But is there ever a time when people ought to feel shame?"

I think I surprised everyone when I answered, "No."  To be honest, it surprised me as well.  Isn't that what it means to be a sinful person in awe of God's goodness?  Shouldn't we feel shame?

I still think, no.  Guilt, absolutely.  But never shame.  The man in my small group asked me to elaborate.

"Shame is the opposite of being created in the image of God.  Shame is being worthless and disgusting in the very heart of our being.  Guilt is making mistakes, of making really terrible, horrible mistakes.  It is doing the wrong thing over and over again.  But with guilt, there can be redemption.  With guilt, we can still be loved."

We talk about this in counseling quite a bit.  Guilt is appropriate (although sometimes people feel false guilt for things they either didn't do or have since been forgiven of), but shame is the disease that leads people to therapy.  Guilt is a parent saying, "You did a bad thing."  Shame is a parent saying, "You're a bad child."

I wonder how much pain has been caused by the Church confusing these two concepts?  We hear over and over again that we are sinners in need of grace.  Yes, absolutely.  But that is not our center.  At our deepest, most inward parts, we are created in the image of God.  We are glorious because we are known and loved by the God of the universe.  Have we inherited a sinful nature?  Have we each acted in countless sinful ways, hurting those who love us, hurting ourselves, acting selfishly in fear and hatred?  Yes, yes, yes.  We are guilty.

But sin does not stop God loving us, and that means we should never teach a gospel of shame.  In what twisted world is shame considered a part of "good news"?

The gospel I stand by is this:  You are loved, and you screw up, and you are loved, and the world sucks, and you are loved, and there is hope, and you are loved, and a day is coming when all will be well, and you are loved.